
How to Live: A Life of Montaigne in One Question and Twenty Attempts at an Answer
by Sarah Bakewell
In "How to Live: A Life of Montaigne in One Question and Twenty Attempts at an Answer," Sarah Bakewell explores the philosophy of Michel de Montaigne, emphasizing the importance of self-examination and the art of living with imperfection. Central to Bakewell's narrative is the idea that life is fleeting, as articulated by Seneca, urging readers to appreciate the present moment and find wonder in the ordinary. Montaigne’s essays serve as vessels connecting generations of readers, highlighting the interplay between personal experiences and universal truths. The book underscores the necessity of embracing one’s flaws and the shared human condition, suggesting that awareness of our “inanity and nonsense” can lead to personal growth. Bakewell illustrates how Montaigne viewed literature as a dialogue with the past, merging the wisdom of classical thinkers with contemporary life lessons. This perspective fosters a sense of community across time, as he believed in the interconnectedness of all minds. Furthermore, the author discusses the concept of amor fati, or loving one’s fate, encouraging acceptance of life's unpredictability. Ultimately, Bakewell advocates for a life of reflection and authenticity, where one learns to navigate existence with curiosity and humility. By embracing our limitations and embracing the moment, we can live more fully, a theme resonating throughout Montaigne’s work and Bakewell’s insightful analysis.
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Seneca put it, life does not pause to remind you that it is running out.
Over the centuries, this interpretation and reinterpretation creates a long chain connecting a writer to all future readers- who frequently read each other as well as the original. Virginia Woolf had a beautiful vision of generations interlinked in this way: of how "minds are threaded together- how any live mind is of the very same stuff as Plato's & Euripides... It is this common mind that binds the whole world together; & all the world is mind." This capacity for living on through readers' inner worlds over long periods of history is what makes a book like the 'Essays' a true classic. As it is reborn differently in each mind, it also brings those minds together.
The trick is to maintain a kind of naïve amazement at each instant of experience - but, as Montaigne learned, one of the best techniques for doing this is to write about everything. Simply describing an object on your table, or the view from your window opens your eyes to how marvelous such ordinary things are. To look inside yourself is to open up an even more fantastical realm.
If you don’t know how to die, don’t worry; Nature will tell you what to do on the spot, fully and adequately. She will do this job perfectly for you; don’t bother your head about it.
Reading Plutarch, he lost awareness of the gap in time that divided them—much bigger than the gap between Montaigne and us. It does not matter, he wrote, whether a person one loves has been dead for fifteen hundred years or, like his own father at the time, eighteen years. Both are equally remote; both are equally close. Montaigne’s merging of favorite authors with his own father says a lot about how he read: he took up books as if they were people, and welcomed them into his family.
Each man is a good education to himself, provided he has the capacity to spy on himself from close up.
Seneca had an extreme trick for practising amor fati. He was asthmatic, and attacks brought him almost to the point of suffocation. He often felt that he was about to die, but he learned to use each attack as a philosophical opportunity. While his throat closed and his lungs strained for breath, he tried to embrace what was happening to him: to say “yes” to it. I will this, he would think; and, if necessary, I will myself to die from it. When the attack receded, he emerged feeling stronger, for he had done battle with fear and defeated it.
Learning to live, in the end, is learning to live with imperfection in this way, and even to embrace it. Our being is cemented with sickly qualities … Whoever should remove the seeds of these qualities from man would destroy the fundamental conditions of our life.
As history has repeatedly suggested, nothing is more effective for demolishing traditional legal protections than the combined claims that a crime is uniquely dangerous, and that those behind it have exceptional powers of resistance. [On witchburning in France during the 16th Century.]
As one of [Montaigne's] favorite adages had it, there is no escaping our perspective: we can walk only on our own legs, and sit only on our own bum.
If others examined themselves attentively, as I do, they would find themselves, as I do, full of inanity and nonsense. Get rid of it I cannot without getting rid of myself. We are all steeped in it, one as much as another; but those who are aware of it are a little better off—though I don’t know. That
Tuna fish demonstrate a sophisticated understanding of astronomy: when the winter solstice arrives, the whole school stops precisely where it is in the water, and stays there until the following spring equinox. They know geometry and arithmetic too, for they have been observed to form themselves into a perfect cube of which all six sides are equal.
Life is what happens while you’re making other plans, they said; so philosophy must guide your attention repeatedly back to the place where it belongs—here.
to see the world exactly as you did half an hour ago is impossible, just as it is impossible to see it from the point of view of a different person standing next to you.
on the loftiest throne in the world we are still sitting only on our own rump.
Either you have lived well, in which case you can go your way satisfied, like a well-fed guest leaving a party. Or you have not, but then it makes no difference that you are losing your life, since you obviously did not know what to do with it anyway.
every abridgment of a good book is a stupid abridgment.
Nothing costs me dear except care and trouble,” wrote Montaigne. “I seek only to grow indifferent and relaxed.
ALL I KNOW IS THAT I KNOW NOTHING, AND I’M NOT EVEN SURE ABOUT THAT
He did write, “Women are not wrong at all when they reject the rules of life that have been introduced into the world, inasmuch as it is the men who have made these without them.” And he believed that, by nature, “males and females are cast in the same mold.
Be free from vanity and pride. Be free from belief, disbelief, convictions, and parties. Be free from habit. Be free from ambition and greed. Be free from family and surroundings. Be free from fanaticism. Be free from fate; be master of your own life. Be free from death; life depends on the will of others, but death on our own will.
It captures his belief that all beings share a common world, but that each creature has its own way of perceiving this world.
Flaubert told his friends, “Read Montaigne … He will calm you.” But, as he also added: “Read him in order to live.
defenseless as a fly, helpless as a snail,
dying, he now realized, you do not encounter death at all, for you are gone before it gets there. You die in the same way that you fall asleep: by drifting away.
Moderation sees itself as beautiful; it is unaware that in the eye of the immoderate it appears black and sober, and consequently ugly-looking.
As the modern critic David Quint has summed it up, Montaigne would probably interpret the message for humanity in Christ’s crucifixion as being “Don’t crucify people.
Nietzsche wrote of certain “free-spirited people” who are perfectly satisfied “with a minor position or a fortune that just meets their needs; for they will set themselves up to live in such a way that a great change in economic conditions, even a revolution in political structures, will not overturn their life with
THE TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY is full of people who are full of themselves. A half-hour’s trawl through the online ocean of blogs, tweets, tubes, spaces, faces, pages, and pods brings up thousands of individuals fascinated by their own personalities and shouting for attention.
besides, it was “putting a very high price on one’s conjectures” to have someone roasted alive on their account.