The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less
by Tanya Dalton
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We have to stop the glorification of busy. We need to change our mindset and redefine what it means to be productive. Productivity is not about doing more, it’s doing what’s most important. We need to stop trying to get more done and instead reset our focus on our own priorities. When we do that, our ideal lives can become our real, everyday lives.
It's not reality that makes us feel stuck; it's the lens we use to view the world.
You can choose or let others choose for you. The choice is really yours. Not making a choice is a choice. But so many of us have forgotten that we have a choice - it's a case of learned helplessness.
The difference between successful people13 and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.
Perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat. ELIZABETH GILBERT
The word priority did not exist until the fifteenth century. It simply wasn’t a word. And then when it did finally merge into conversations, it was always singular—never priorities. And it stayed that way for about five hundred years, until suddenly it became plural.
You have to take this journey; you have to do the work because this your path. The good, the bad, and teh ugly: it belongs to you. So own it.
HAPPINESS ISN’T DEFINED BY OTHERS IT IS DEFINED BY you AND THE DAILY CHOICES YOU MAKE
Focusing your time, getting rid of some of the noise, and lasering in on your priorities sometimes takes some discomfort. I know this myself firsthand. We need to discover the priorities that are unique to us, but first we have to take hold of this truth: we must be willing to not have it all.
Let me lay a little tough love on you right now. You can choose or let others choose for you. The choice is really yours. Not making a choice is a choice. But so many of us have forgotten that we have a choice—it’s a case of learned helplessness. Have you ever experienced that feeling of having no control over your day? As if your world is so rigid and made up of so many rules you don’t really get to choose the life you live? That, my friend, is learned helplessness. That feeling I was experiencing? Of being stuck (and the fact that I wanted to give up and not even think about how empty I felt)? That was my own learned helplessness rearing its ugly head.
It’s not reality2 that makes us feel stuck; it’s the lens we use to view the world.
