The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents
by William Martin
In "The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents," William Martin presents a profound exploration of parenting rooted in mindfulness and simplicity. The book emphasizes the importance of valuing children's innate creativity and joy over societal agendas and expectations. Martin urges parents to provide their children with the space to dream and to appreciate the beauty of ordinary life rather than pushing them toward extraordinary achievements. Central to his message is the idea that parental guidance should focus on modeling respect, love, and serenity, even in challenging situations. This approach teaches children resilience and emotional intelligence far more effectively than conventional moral lectures. Martin advocates for allowing children to experience failure and pain, viewing these as essential teachers that foster growth and courage. Furthermore, the author stresses the significance of a positive outlook; when parents demonstrate appreciation for life’s moments, children learn to see the world through a lens of joy rather than complaint. Ultimately, Martin’s work serves as a reminder that nurturing children is a sacred responsibility, one that shapes the future of humanity by instilling values of authenticity, resilience, and gratitude.
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Do you have agendas for your children that are more important than the children themselves? Lost in the shuffle of uniforms, practices, games, recitals, and performances can be the creative and joyful soul of your child. Watch and listen carefully. Do they have time to daydream? From their dreams will emerge the practices and activities that will make self-discipline as natural as breathing.
Don’t mistake your desire to talk for their readiness to listen. Far more important
Do not ask your childrento strive for extraordinary lives.Such striving may seem admirable,but it is the way of foolishness.Help them instead to find the wonderand the marvel of an ordinary life.Show them the joy of tastingtomatoes, apples and pears.Show them how to crywhen pets and people die.Show them the infinite pleasurein the touch of a hand.And make the ordinary come alive for them.The extraordinary will take care of itself.
Believe this difficult truth. Showing respect in the face of disrespect, love in the face of hate, trust in the face of betrayal, and serenity in the face of turmoil, will teach your children more than all the moral lectures by all the preachers since the dawn of time.
If your child fails at something merely express your confidence in their ability to handle the consequences. If they behave irresponsibly, merely point out the consequences to themselves and others, and again express your trust that they will learn. As soon as possible give them another opportunity to be appropriately responsible. Do not slip into the downward spiral of blame, shame, and control. It doesn’t work.
Few things in this world are as important as raising children. In every age, every era, every time and place, children are our treasures, our future, our immortality—the vital link in the chain of humanity.
If you overly protect your children they will fear failure and avoid pain. But failure and pain are twin teachers of important lessons. Unless your children fully experience both how will they know they have nothing to fear?
If you complain about politics, and gripe about taxes, and stew about the sorry state of things your children will learn to whine instead of laugh. If you can see in every moment a chance to live, and to accept, and to appreciate, your children will transform the world.
