How to Become a People Magnet: 62 Life-Changing Tips to Attract Everyone You Meet

You can’t win an argument. If you lose it, you lose it; if you win it, you also lose it. Why? Because you have made the other party look inferior and might even have hurt their dignity.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

Any fool can disagree with people’ (and most fools probably do). Agreeing with people, on the other hand, is a wise, intelligent and good decision, even more so when the other person is wrong. Only disagree with people if you have absolutely no other choice. No worries. It will happen less often than you think. When you are about to disagree with someone, always have in mind the magic question, ‘Do I want to be right or do I want to be in peace?

If you want to give advice, ask for permission.

Seamos sinceros. Es mucho más divertido estar cerca de personas que tienen una visión positiva del mundo que de personas que son pesimistas y se quejan continuamente de sus problemas personales. Por supuesto, tenemos que escuchar los problemas de nuestros amigos y colegas. Pero en este caso estoy hablando de esas personas que nos usan continuamente como su cubo de basura humano. Desafortunadamente, las emociones y las palabras también son contagiosas y, si pasamos demasiado tiempo con ese tipo de gente, podrían arrastrarnos a su mundo oscuro.

Praise the behaviour, not the person.

Keep the conversation optimistic. Nobody wants to be with a complainer and be confident that people will like you—at least 50 per cent of all the people you meet. If they don’t like you, well then be friendly and professional and think to yourself ‘they must be from the other 50 per cent.

There is nothing bad about making mistakes. You are human. Humans make mistakes. Stop feeling like a bad or useless person simply because you make mistakes every now and then.

Pessimists interpret events as permanent and personal—‘what’s wrong with me?’, ‘I’ll never learn.’ Optimists see events as temporary. ‘I wasn’t in good shape today; I’m sure I’ll do better tomorrow. Nevertheless, I’m one step closer to the goal.

es en última instancia un compromiso contigo mismo. Si no cumples con tus compromisos y promesas te estás enviando el siguiente mensaje: “Mi palabra no vale nada. Por lo tanto, YO no valgo nada”.

When you get from ‘I,’ ‘my,’ ‘mine,’ to ‘YOU’ and ‘YOUR’ your power and influence will increase by a significant degree.

If you make a mistake, admit it. It’s a sign of a strong person, and you’ll be admired for it, as average and mediocre people don’t admit their mistakes.

Most of the time people you meet will be skeptical of you and of what you say. No worries. That’s human. Whatever you are saying they will think that you probably want to sell them something (a product, your best version and so on) and people don’t like to be sold to. They like to make their own decisions—or at least, feel like that they are making their own decisions. A great way to convince people is quoting someone. That’s why testimonials and opinions of others, in other words, social proof go a long, long way. Let somebody else speak for you even if the person is not present in the moment.

Our focus determines our overall perception of the world.

Only small minds criticize because they are either cowards, or too weak to create something themselves, or both.

Entender a la gente significa reconocerlos por lo que son, no por lo que quieres que sean, ni por lo que crees que son, sino por lo que realmente son.

A great way to convince people is quoting someone.

Walk a mile (or maybe better ten) in my shoes before you judge me.

Pessimists interpret events as permanent and personal—‘what’s wrong with me?’, ‘I’ll never learn.’ Optimists see events as temporary. ‘I wasn’t in good shape today; I’m sure I’ll do better tomorrow.

Focus on the other person’s strengths and see them in an entirely new way.

Perfectionism is the enemy of good relations, because very often perfectionists are extremely sensitive to criticism, and always on the defensive. It gets even worse when we expect perfectionism from our spouse, partners, or friends.

By the way…smiling is not only good for your relationships, but also for your health! Science has demonstrated that laughing or smiling a lot daily improves your mental state and creativity. It also alters your stress response in difficult situations by slowing down your heart rate and decreasing stress levels. Smiling sends a signal to your brain that things are all right. One study has even found a link between smiling and longevity! Smiling people are perceived as more confident and more likely to be trusted. People just feel good around them. Smile and win in all relationships.

Do you want to receive more compliments? Give more compliments. Do you want to be more admired? Admire more. Do you want to be loved more? Love more. Do you want recognition of your true worth? Recognize the true worth of others. Do you want sincere appreciation? Give sincere appreciation to others.

Criticism is useless. The only thing it does is put a person on the defensive and makes them try to justify themselves.

Praise people and watch them grow. Last but not least the third ingredient, Appreciation.

Smiling is contagious, so in most cases, people will smile back and be nice to you. Mostly in human relationships, you will get right back what you put out to other people.

being angry and having resentments towards another person is like drinking poison and hoping the other individual dies from it.

Goethe already knew this hundreds of years ago: ‘If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

If you get along well with people, doors will open where there were none before. We have to learn to get along with people so that we can be happy and at the same time leave our counterpart’s ego intact.

We live in a society that longs for appreciation, recognition and feeling important.